Showing posts with label Love and Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love and Relationships. Show all posts
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Thursday, January 01, 2009
Engaged
I am happy to announce that Melissa (Lissa) and I are engaged to be married. After 4 years of dating, I popped the question on New Years Eve right when the clock rolled over to 2009.
Here are a few pictures from our wonderful moment.
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Belle Schmidlin
I know I have not written a blog in over a year. So many things have happened.
I started and completed my first year of teaching as a band director, attended concerts, and many other things.
In this blog I want to give my respects to 2 people who have recently gone home to Jesus.
The first is Baby Cate Cantrell who after a fruitful 7 months of life was called home to Jesus after her fight with a heart defect. More info on her struggle and prayer chain can be found through the link I provided on her name.
The next person I want to talk about is my Grandmother, Belle Schmidlin. She passed away last Wednesday, June 16, 2008. She lived a long life and was 82 years old. I will have my memories of my Grandma forever with me and I will be writing a personal essay about my memories of her shortly. I will post my essay of memories of her once I complete it. I'm going to spend a bit of time on it and try to dig really deep into my memory bank for any memories I have that I want to share.
I know anyone who reads this will want to share their sympathy with me. Believe me when I say that I am at peace with my Grandma's passing. It was her time and Jesus has prepared a place for her.
As for Baby Cate, I cannot even begin to imagine what all the Cantrell's are going through. I read their blog daily and devoted many hours of Adoration for Baby Cate as many people across the nation did. Though the outcome was not what we hoped, God's plan is greater than all of us and Cate's time here with us will be a blessing written down in the history books of all who knew her or prayed for her.
I think I'm seriously going to start blogging again. But until my next post, keep the people I mentioned in this post in your prayers.
God bless
Saturday, March 10, 2007
Heartbreak
It has been 2 weeks since Lissa and I parted ways as a couple.
I don't care if this statement makes me less masculine, but I feel heartbreak.
I spent 2 years and 3 months with her as my one and only, the love of my life and I'm feeling the emptiness that comes with the removal of something so wonderful from your life.
I'm not saying it should not have happened. There were a lot of things going on in our lives that eventually lead us to the decision to part ways.
I feel empty right now. I know God is on my side and will fill me with His love, but even God knows that it's only natural for me to feel this way.
I'll always love her...
I don't care if this statement makes me less masculine, but I feel heartbreak.
I spent 2 years and 3 months with her as my one and only, the love of my life and I'm feeling the emptiness that comes with the removal of something so wonderful from your life.
I'm not saying it should not have happened. There were a lot of things going on in our lives that eventually lead us to the decision to part ways.
I feel empty right now. I know God is on my side and will fill me with His love, but even God knows that it's only natural for me to feel this way.
I'll always love her...
Thursday, October 12, 2006
Lissa SO Rocks
Need I say more? I mean, look at her. Isn't she just the hottest thing ever when she has a mic in her hand and she's singing? Pictures/situations like the one you see pictured above is just one of the many reasons why I love that girl to death. Lissa SO Rocks!
Love you sweetheart!
Relationships
Taken from www.lifeteen.com
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7 Signs your relationship isn’t working
By Andrea Prisby
Relationships have their ups and downs, but how do we know if this relationship really isn’t working? Here’s seven clues that your it’s not true love.
1. Fight Fight Fight!
You may have so many things in common but still argue. Minimal disagreements are fine, but if you even have to question if you fight too much--then you probably do. Fights matter because petty arguments on the surface are caused by pent-up aggression underneathe. Aggression does not come from love. It is poison in a relationship.
2. Too Dependent
Do you rely on him/her for everything? If that person was stripped from you, could you survive on your own? It’s easy—especially for girls—to become dependent on their boyfriend. A certain level of dependency is healthy in a relationship, because you want to look to one another for support and compassion. But if you feel like you cannot do anything without that person, something is wrong. Or if you feel like you have to ask permission to go out with your friends or spend time with your family, that dependency has become distorted into control. Depend on one, the One.
3. Jealousy
There are three circumstances for jealousy. The first is you trying to figure out where you fit in his/her list of priorites. Feeling like you are fifth on the list will make you jealous. Talk about it, and if see if things change. If you are still behind sports, homework, friends, video games, and sleep--then get out.
The second kind of jealousy comes from your date flirting with others. This is a sign of manipulation, and manipulation is a sign of a doomed relationship. Make a habit of looking for manipulation and save yourself from a lot of pain.
The third kind of jealousy comes from inside you and has nothing to do with the other person. Your own insecurity can play games in your head, making you covetous of the other person’s time and affection. Step back and examine yourself. If you don’t, you’ll probably get dumped.
4. Friends First, You Last
It’s healthy to hang out with each other’s friends. This keeps you from living on Planet You-Me. But there is a difference between hanging out with your friends every so often and hanging out with them all the time. If your boyfriend/girlfriend chooses to spend more time with their friends, they are not ready for a relationship. This balance is important and needs to be discussed early in the relationship.
5. You First, Friends Last
Similar to #4, if your friends and family are complaining about never seeing you, you need to re-examine your relationship. Yes, when you are dating, you naturally spend more time with that person before where all you did was hang out with friends and family. But when you cut that time off completely, you are too absorbed in that other person. This is unhealthy. The important thing is to maintain relationships with friends throughout the relationship, especially in the early stages. They can help hold you accountable and keep your head on straight.
6. Less God time
This is huge. If your relationship with God is suffering, you need to back away. If he/she is pulling you away from God, instead of leading you closer, get out of the relationship. God should be the center of your relationship. You should each love Him more than the other person.
Missionary dating does not work. Yes, there may be hope that your boyfriend/girlfriend will someday come to love the Lord, but that “hope” isn’t going to help your relationship grow and develop. The best thing you can do for that other person is to let them be God’s. You need to be solid in your faith before you begin a relationship. Don’t assume that he/she will change once you start dating.
7. Isn’t willing to talk or listen
When you talk, does he or she listen? If you feel shut out, this relationship has already died. You should never put up with this behavior. Remove yourself from the situation. You deserve to be listened to and to be respected.
These ideas may convict you and force you to examine your relationship. I want to remind you that they are meant to do just that. I am not assuring you that even if half are true that your relationship needs to end. Please take them into consideration, pray about them, and then handle your relationship accordingly. Relationships can lead us closer to God, or further away, so we need to be smart about who we date. God is the true source of happiness, and a God-less relationship is a love-less relationship. You deserved to be loved!
Direct link: click here
7 Signs your relationship isn’t working
By Andrea Prisby
Relationships have their ups and downs, but how do we know if this relationship really isn’t working? Here’s seven clues that your it’s not true love.
1. Fight Fight Fight!
You may have so many things in common but still argue. Minimal disagreements are fine, but if you even have to question if you fight too much--then you probably do. Fights matter because petty arguments on the surface are caused by pent-up aggression underneathe. Aggression does not come from love. It is poison in a relationship.
2. Too Dependent
Do you rely on him/her for everything? If that person was stripped from you, could you survive on your own? It’s easy—especially for girls—to become dependent on their boyfriend. A certain level of dependency is healthy in a relationship, because you want to look to one another for support and compassion. But if you feel like you cannot do anything without that person, something is wrong. Or if you feel like you have to ask permission to go out with your friends or spend time with your family, that dependency has become distorted into control. Depend on one, the One.
3. Jealousy
There are three circumstances for jealousy. The first is you trying to figure out where you fit in his/her list of priorites. Feeling like you are fifth on the list will make you jealous. Talk about it, and if see if things change. If you are still behind sports, homework, friends, video games, and sleep--then get out.
The second kind of jealousy comes from your date flirting with others. This is a sign of manipulation, and manipulation is a sign of a doomed relationship. Make a habit of looking for manipulation and save yourself from a lot of pain.
The third kind of jealousy comes from inside you and has nothing to do with the other person. Your own insecurity can play games in your head, making you covetous of the other person’s time and affection. Step back and examine yourself. If you don’t, you’ll probably get dumped.
4. Friends First, You Last
It’s healthy to hang out with each other’s friends. This keeps you from living on Planet You-Me. But there is a difference between hanging out with your friends every so often and hanging out with them all the time. If your boyfriend/girlfriend chooses to spend more time with their friends, they are not ready for a relationship. This balance is important and needs to be discussed early in the relationship.
5. You First, Friends Last
Similar to #4, if your friends and family are complaining about never seeing you, you need to re-examine your relationship. Yes, when you are dating, you naturally spend more time with that person before where all you did was hang out with friends and family. But when you cut that time off completely, you are too absorbed in that other person. This is unhealthy. The important thing is to maintain relationships with friends throughout the relationship, especially in the early stages. They can help hold you accountable and keep your head on straight.
6. Less God time
This is huge. If your relationship with God is suffering, you need to back away. If he/she is pulling you away from God, instead of leading you closer, get out of the relationship. God should be the center of your relationship. You should each love Him more than the other person.
Missionary dating does not work. Yes, there may be hope that your boyfriend/girlfriend will someday come to love the Lord, but that “hope” isn’t going to help your relationship grow and develop. The best thing you can do for that other person is to let them be God’s. You need to be solid in your faith before you begin a relationship. Don’t assume that he/she will change once you start dating.
7. Isn’t willing to talk or listen
When you talk, does he or she listen? If you feel shut out, this relationship has already died. You should never put up with this behavior. Remove yourself from the situation. You deserve to be listened to and to be respected.
These ideas may convict you and force you to examine your relationship. I want to remind you that they are meant to do just that. I am not assuring you that even if half are true that your relationship needs to end. Please take them into consideration, pray about them, and then handle your relationship accordingly. Relationships can lead us closer to God, or further away, so we need to be smart about who we date. God is the true source of happiness, and a God-less relationship is a love-less relationship. You deserved to be loved!
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